yeah, totally feel you. I can imagine how hearing your doms voice would add to the intensity.
Also totally get you with having to at least talk to each other once for a v long time, feel out the vibe between you, build a trust better. tbh, if it was me id wanna video chat, deff know who is my...
never actually had either with two guys, but have both with a guy and and woman (strap on odv). spit roast is amazing, dp took some getting used to ngl, but amazing once comfortable.....I guess its a mood thing whats better, and prob better with two guys x